I relate so much to the noted aspects of hunters as regards’ scanning’ . My mother used to say to me ‘ stop being so afraid to miss something’. The abrupt changes in direction of conversation is so familiar . I have a daughter that has also been diagnosed with ADHD. Her I Q is quite High as she was described as a ‘risk taker’.
Her sisters were so compliant and methodical they thought she was ‘ crazy’ . Their father , my ex husband and I had shared custody.
He was a typical Farmer organizer ( Teacher)
He identified well with the two older girls, but had a very difficult time with my youngest daughter who was clearly ADHD . He in spite of having studied psychology , was rigidly sure that this was a situation of “ right “ and “wrong”.
Guess who was wrong ? That’s it , the youngest , he hounded her to make her conform in spite of his alleged knowledge about ADHD . Like many teachers he could not be open to these possibilities. Because of his rule based lifestyle .
My daughter , the youngest , really suffered because of this treatment and the disdain he had for the diagnosis .
This disdain was also for me and my different view in life in general .
I finally left him and divorced him .
This was my second divorce . I tried to
Stay because I had so much guilt over ‘ leaving another marriage ‘ .
I never planned to remarry , but I met someone who was open and accepting , He was a Radiologist . The third was the charm . Unfortunately he died from Pancreatic cancer 7 yrs after we met .
However it was probably the first relationship that allowed me to trust. That I was ‘ ok’ . Love has power . Acceptance has every bit as much .
What a different life I might have had if this set of characteristics had been recognized as applicable to practical and mental-health experience even 10 or 15 years before they were! As it was, I was over 40, and too many bridges burned. My school reports from childhood, that my Mom still had, when i was diagnosed, "She seems really bright, but....????" But if you want to see that blueberry lizard on a rock over there, come take a walk with me.
I proofread my stuff almost compulsively anyway, but still miss the machine sabotage now and then and it drives me up proverbial wall! Blue Belly lizard, doggonit!
I relate so much to the noted aspects of hunters as regards’ scanning’ . My mother used to say to me ‘ stop being so afraid to miss something’. The abrupt changes in direction of conversation is so familiar . I have a daughter that has also been diagnosed with ADHD. Her I Q is quite High as she was described as a ‘risk taker’.
Her sisters were so compliant and methodical they thought she was ‘ crazy’ . Their father , my ex husband and I had shared custody.
He was a typical Farmer organizer ( Teacher)
He identified well with the two older girls, but had a very difficult time with my youngest daughter who was clearly ADHD . He in spite of having studied psychology , was rigidly sure that this was a situation of “ right “ and “wrong”.
Guess who was wrong ? That’s it , the youngest , he hounded her to make her conform in spite of his alleged knowledge about ADHD . Like many teachers he could not be open to these possibilities. Because of his rule based lifestyle .
My daughter , the youngest , really suffered because of this treatment and the disdain he had for the diagnosis .
This disdain was also for me and my different view in life in general .
I finally left him and divorced him .
This was my second divorce . I tried to
Stay because I had so much guilt over ‘ leaving another marriage ‘ .
I never planned to remarry , but I met someone who was open and accepting , He was a Radiologist . The third was the charm . Unfortunately he died from Pancreatic cancer 7 yrs after we met .
However it was probably the first relationship that allowed me to trust. That I was ‘ ok’ . Love has power . Acceptance has every bit as much .
What a different life I might have had if this set of characteristics had been recognized as applicable to practical and mental-health experience even 10 or 15 years before they were! As it was, I was over 40, and too many bridges burned. My school reports from childhood, that my Mom still had, when i was diagnosed, "She seems really bright, but....????" But if you want to see that blueberry lizard on a rock over there, come take a walk with me.
I proofread my stuff almost compulsively anyway, but still miss the machine sabotage now and then and it drives me up proverbial wall! Blue Belly lizard, doggonit!