Workaholic Hunters Need to Schedule Time with Friends
Workaholic Hunters Need to Schedule Time with Friends
Most of us in the business world are so harried, particularly if we’re the typical workaholic Hunter, that we end up with little time for friendships.
Most of us in the business world are so harried, particularly if we’re the typical workaholic Hunter, that we end up with little time for friendships. Bill in Atlanta tells how he got around that:
I’ve known my friend Tom for about fifteen years, but over the past few years we’d just sort of drifted apart. We’re both entrepreneurs, and putting in seventy-hour weeks is normal for both of us.
But about two years ago, after Channel 2 ran a news report about this adult ADHD support group here in Atlanta, I realized from the news show that I probably had ADHD, so I went to the next meeting of the group the following Thursday.
I was amazed to see Tom there. It was his first meeting, too, and he was there because he’d seen the same show (as were about 100 other people; the place was packed).
Afterwards, we went out for a beer and caught up on each other’s lives over the past few years. It was great. So we agreed to meet the following month at the support group meeting, and then go out for a drink afterwards again.
We only attended the meetings for five months. After that it started to get pretty repetitive, and neither of us really consider ourselves sick, so we didn’t always agree on the pathology emphasis of some of the people there.
That’s not to say that we don’t have problems with ADHD, but I guess we’re just not group joiner types or whatever.
Even though we stopped going to the meetings, though, we kept up with our second-Thursday-of-the-month meetings. Now we get together for dinner, and then go out and do something.
We’ve been bowling, went to a strip bar, attended a symphony, been to a few movies, and went to a shooting range. We try to come up with new or weird things that neither of us has done before, just to keep our lives interesting. After all, we’re Hunters! ;)
And we keep each other apprised of what’s going on in our lives, and sort of coach each other along when it comes to business, our personal lives, and even our ADHD.
I’d forgotten what it was like to have a best friend: I haven’t had one since high school. But Tom’s definitely my best friend now, and it’s amazing to me what a difference it makes just to have this once-a-month regular get-together.